I’m a tad late jumping on to the first post of 2017 bandwagon, but rather late than never.
It’s the start of a new year, and synonymous with New Year is new year’s resolutions, hopes and dreams of achieving great things, an abundance of positivity and determination, and more. Now my question: is it really necessary to try and reinvent yourself every year? Here’s my opinion on all that, and my goals for the year.
For a long time I was one of the millions of people who firmly believed in that ‘new year, new me’ bullshit, and I would spend so much time setting goals and resolutions for the new year. But in actual fact I was just setting myself up for disappointment and demotivation (that’s probably not a real word but just go with it). Now that I’m older, and much, much wiser, I have acquired a more realistic, healthier way of thinking about things. One of those is that every day is a chance to turn over a new leaf and a new opportunity to be better.
As for setting goals and resolutions; there are less of them, they are realistic, not necessarily easier, but achievable and for the greater good. Basically it all comes down to being the best version of me, that I can be, however cheesy that may sound.
Fashion a genuine & contagious positive attitude
Positivity has become a vital part of my being, especially in a world where we are surrounded by negativity; gossip, war, violence, rising living costs, etc.
I started noticing the effect that a negative environment can have on a person’s mood, and personality in general. It was what actioned me to write ‘Get out of your slump!’. I’m extremely glad to have had this realisation, because it changed my life for the better, and since then I’ve been able to be a positive influence on others (which is very rewarding). In 2017 I will strive to continue with a positive attitude, and to continue influencing more people in a positive way.
Just a note on this; please don’t get me wrong – we all have bad days, my life is no exception. But ask yourself – was it a bad day, or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day? As the saying goes – it was just a bad day (or five minutes), not a bad life. You just have to make it a priority and try a little harder everyday.
Get closer to the real me
This year, I would like to be selfish! I really want to get to know myself. I’d like to get closer to finding out what my true calling is, my true passions, what I’m actually capable of.
I’d like to take myself on dates, find a church where I feel at home, yet gets me out of my comfort zone and teaches me things about myself and my relationship with my Creator.
In 2017 I want to figure out what truly makes Annemie tick.
De-clutter my life
My personal life, my home, my relationships, and definitely social media.
Be more productive
In 2016 one of my goals was to really give the blogging thing a go, and it lasted about a month or so. So, this year I would like it to last a tad bit longer.
I’d also like to start taking more photos. Life goes by so quick lately, I’d really like to remember the moments to make them last.
I also want to focus on time management. I am a list maker, but sometimes I spend so much time on making lists of things that need to be done, that I don’t actually get to anything on my list.
Do and see more
I purchased the Entertainer app for 2017 in the hopes of doing more this year. Actually trying new restaurants, seeing shows apart from Arcade Empire and Park Acoustics, and doing fun things on weekends like go-karting, paintball, archery etc. instead of lounging, series binge-ing and braaiing (and drinking ALL the wine). Fingers crossed.
Continue with 2016’s achievements
I’m proud to say that 2016 was a pretty good year for me, in terms of sticking to my resolutions.
- I managed to pick up a pretty decent gym habit, by starting out with a friend. This helped me to gain the confidence I needed to eventually be able to go on my own. (I’m not the only one who thinks the gym is the epitome of intimidation to a newbie, right?) Through this whole process I eventually learned that everybody in the gym really isn’t looking at me and/or judging me. They are all just focusing on their own workout.
- I started taking better care of myself; by exercising daily, taking better care of my skin, eating healthier, managing my relationships, and managing my time better. I forced myself to do a lot of these things, which at the time was difficult, but well worth it in the end.
- I picked up a (more) positive attitude, as mentioned above.
- I read lots of books. My favourite book of 2016 was definitely Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children. I absolutely devoured it, and I’m looking forward to starting the next one very soon. It’s definitely a fantastic option if you’re in a reading slump. I’m currently reading “If you want to walk on water, you’ve got to get out of the boat” by John Ortberg. It’s really inspiring and an easy read.
- I made lots of progress in my home; I managed to de-clutter considerably, as well as renovate and decorate a good amount. My next focus is my garden and stoep/bar.
- I have a better evaluation of what’s important; I don’t spend as much time worrying about things as I used to. I have come to realise that not all friendships are meant to last, not all sale items are meant to be bought, and not all events and parties are meant to be attended. I have taken all that energy that I used to spend on worrying, and focused it on positive and productive things.
The cherry on the cake; the thing I am most proud of, is actually being able to get out of bed in the morning! I have never really had a problem waking up in the morning (I can actually feel my boyfriend’s disapproval, and shaking his head all the way across Gauteng, as I’m writing this), but actually sitting up and getting out of bed has been a near impossible action for me. I have had to resort to drastic measures (my alarm clock is now in my living room, where it can be clearly heard from my bed, and cannot be ignored), but I have achieved this long-awaited goal.
So that’s it from me, for now.